To All The Moms: You Are Enough

I remember my first Mother’s Day.

Our son had just turned six months old and I was barely coming out of the fog of those early newborn months. Months of sleepless nights, feeding woes and constant fear I was doing it all wrong. The nagging feeling that I was clearly not prepared for motherhood.

No one told me it was going to be this hard. No one told me my heart could hold this much love.

It was at this first Mother’s Day that I really began to understand the huge responsibility that came with the title “Mom,” and at the same time the tremendous gift I had been given.

Mother – that was the bank where we deposited all our hurts and worries.

— T. DEWITT TALMAGE

Fast forward 13 years later…

I still have sleepless nights, feeding woes (mainly of how to cook enough food for three growing boys) and constant fear I am doing it all wrong. The nagging feeling that I STILL am not prepared for motherhood.

Maybe that’s because we never really are.

Hundreds of books have been written on the topic. I’ve read some of them hoping I’d learn just the right thing to say to my kids in certain situations. The right way to mother.

My most recent read, Mother & Son: The Respect Effect, discussed how boys (and men in general) respond better to respect than love. The author, Emerson Eggerichs, believes “Love is important, but it is respect that is the key to your son’s heart.” As the sole female in our home who speaks love as her language, this kinda rocked my world.

Yet, whether you’ve read every parenting book you can get your hands on or none at all, I believe at the end of the day we are all just doing the best we can. And that will be enough. At some point, we have to let go and let God. 

This has been one of the most difficult parts of motherhood for me…letting go. The role we play as mothers has many facets, but at the top is preparing our children to leave home someday and live in this big world.

Letting go allows our kids to fail and learn from those mistakes. It’s one of the hardest things to watch as a mother… knowing you could have prevented some of the inevitable heartache they will endure. It is also one of the greatest gifts we can give our kids.

There are two gifts we should give our children;

one is roots, and the other is wings.

— AUTHOR UNKNOWN

Before I became a mom, I didn’t fully understand what my own mother had gone through to raise me and my sister. The countless sacrifices, the tears, the worry, the frustration, the joy, the pride, the love. The roots and wings she gave us to fly.

We don’t need a day marked on the calendar to show our love and appreciation to those moms dear to us. Yet, it’s easy to take those closest to us for granted and to not say often enough how much they mean.

THANK YOU and Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing, beautiful moms I am blessed to know and love. You have made me a better mom and person. You’ve made the world a better place for our children.

You are enough!

I can imagine no heroism greater than motherhood.

— LANCE CONRAD, THE PRICE OF CREATION

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